This phrase continues to appear in my life over and over so I thought I would share my thoughts on the subject.

I mentioned in a previous post that when discussing the epidural with my OB, he said that my pain is my pain.  He doesn’t know what it feels like for me when I’m dilated to a 2 verses a 6.  Everyone has different pain tolerances and thresholds, which is true in all aspects of our lives.

It is important to put things in perspective.  Maybe you are having a bad day…your toddler flushed your toothbrush down the toilet, your getting sick and have a long to-do list.  Take a step back and remind yourself that it’s really not that bad….there are people out there that are truly suffering and tomorrow is a new day for you, but not for others.  Ok ok ok, I know we all  try to do this when we can look outside of ourselves, but sometimes, we just need to vent or complain about things in our lives and shouldn’t have to feel guilty for it.

Personally, venting to friends and family releases that built up muck, and sometimes I even let loose on social media (gasp!) in hopes that some of my friends will know that they aren’t alone.  Commiserating together is so much better than being alone in your head. Many people feel irritated with those that complain about “trivial circumstances” in comparison to their own, but I encourage those to try and understand that unless you can put yourself in someone else’s shoes and feel what they feel, there should be no judgement.  Everyone has challenges in their lives, so let’s give each other a break and let one another have a good rant without throwing the “who has it worse” card. Let’s be gracious…or try to be.